Sunday, July 12, 2009

2009 NYC Theatre marathon

E, my husband, has written up our eight day trip of theatre in New York City…

To summarize, we saw 14 shows (13 B'Way and 1 Off B'Way) while in NYC for 8 days and 9 nights. We only paid full price for 3 shows; the others we got at 50-60% off the cost through Theatermania.com, Playbill.com, Broadwaybox.com, or NYTix.com.

We feel 2009 is a really strong year for New York theater; there were actually other shows we wanted to see but did not have enough slots to schedule (e.g., "The Norman Conquests"). The July 4th week audiences were mostly sold out in every venue we attended. The buzz was great, and standing ovations were common.

The Musicals
So, the Tony's got it right, in our opinion, in terms of Best New Musical. "Billy Elliot" is an amazing show, with the strong melodies, story, setting, and emotions of a "Ragtime" or a "Les Miz." I didn't cry once but several times during the show (and I knew the story well already). The many kids in the show were fantastic, and my only regret is that we could not see it more times in order to see all of the current 4 boys playing "Billy Elliot." I would say it is worth a special effort to be in New York (or London) while this show is playing and to do everything you can to get a hard-to-come-by ticket (which you will need to get way in advance and will have to pay full price).

But, any of the nominated musicals would have been great choices this year to win "Best New Musical." If voting, Ed and I would have given at least a 'tie' vote to "Shrek" for "best musical." (Yes, I said SHREK!!) The production is nothing short of amazing. The music is fun and up-lifting. The sets are incredible and clever without being over-the-top. The use of puppetry throughout is clearly in the old English tradition of Punch and Judy. But more than anything, the leads are fantastic. Brian D'Arcy James as Shrek and Daniel Breaker as Donkey are a wonderful pair together and give award-winning performances, even with all the make-up they must wear. This is a show adults should not hesitate to go to, even though the matinee performance we attended was half kids. Like the movie, the humor reaches all levels and is actually pretty risqué at times. It is a great story with an important message (much like "Wicked"). We totally recommend seeing "Shrek."

Like many of our friends have told us, "Next to Normal" also clearly could have been named Best New Musical. What a powerful show. And without a doubt, Alice Ripley gives the Best Actress in a Musical performance that she deservedly won. Every person in the 5 person cast is a winner, actually. The story is sometimes hard to watch and is very heart-gripping. The mother in this seemingly 'normal' family has suffered for over a decade with bipolar disease, and the entire family rides the roller coaster with her in the course of the musical. The story is also about loss, regrets, and yet hope with the resolution to "move on." As the daughter says, "If we can't have normal, then just give me next-to-normal. That would be nice, too." I am sure this will be done here in the Bay Area in the next year or two. (TheatreWorks could do a great job, I know.) Don't miss it.

A real surprise (along with "Shrek") for us was "Rock of Ages." Probably no show we saw had the audience rocking in the aisles and on their feet at their seats any more than this one. Piecing together the music of many bands of the 80s (Journey, Night Ranger, Styx, REO Speedwagon, Pat Benatar, Twisted Sister, Poison, Asia, Whitesnake and more ... music I frankly have never been fond of since I think the 80s was the lost decade when it comes to rock), the musical creates a fun, often tongue-in-cheek story much like our very favorite "Xanadu" did two years prior. (in fact, it uses the same story line and some of the same elements as "Xanadu.") The music really works in this context and is delivered by a stellar and talented cast. We loved every minute of this show and are so glad that we went, even with initial reservations about yet another musical of past rock stars' music.

The show that was over-looked, in our opinion, in the Tony "Best" category but was one of the most fun and delightful shows we saw (and probably the one we laughed most and the hardest at) is "9 to 5." While the story 20-years-post-movie is perhaps a bit dated, the overall effect of the three wonderful actresses playing the Jane Fonda, Lily Tomlin and Dolly Parton roles is worth the price of the ticket alone. Each is terrific. Who knew that "West Wing's" Allison Janney (the press secretary in that TV hit) could belt out musical numbers and dance (and get nominated for a Best Actress award in the meantime)? And I would go again just to see Megan Hilty play the Dolly part; she is perfect in the role and looks just like her predecessor.

Ed and I disagree on one musical we saw, although we both still enjoyed it. For me, "Hair" is too dated and continues to be a bit weak overall with such a slim story line. Seeing it in the early 70s was pretty neat for me (especially seeing my first nude scene on stage ... or was that when I saw "Oh, Calcutta"?), and the songs are definitely, in many cases, classics. And even though the cast is outstanding in this Tony-winning production and the overall look is great, it all felt 20-years out-of-context and thus a bit silly to me. Ed, on the other hand, ranked this as one of the best musicals he saw and was less concerned that it was dated. We argued awhile over beers before just agreeing to disagree.

And then there was our one disappointment for the week, and it was a HUGE disappointment. "West Side Story" did not deliver for us on hardly any level other than outstanding choreography (for which is was not even nominated for a Tony). I was shocked how the leads overall did not bring the needed voices for these parts we all love so much. The leads for Tony and Maria are beautiful in looks but had almost no spark between them. I hardly cared of their demise by the play's end, frankly. And neither they nor many of the other folks could bring what is required for this challenging, beautiful music. Probably the telling moment that this production will not stand the test of time (in my opinion) was the very un-funny "Officer Krupke" number. I have never seen a production of WWS where the audience did not demand a reprise of this slap-stick number. Our sold-out audience's applause maybe lasted 15-20 seconds after a number that will usually bring an audience to its feet mid-play. The strongest role in the production is Karen Olivo as Anita (who won the Tony), but her pivotal (to the story) number "A Boy Like That" is done entirely in Spanish. For anyone who does not know the story well and who cannot speak fluent Spanish, much was missed by Laurents' choice to use so much Spanish, especially for this song. (By the way, our low opinion of this production seemed to be borne out everywhere we went last week. The most common comment we heard in passing others on the street or waiting in the inevitable bathroom lines during intermissions was how people were disappointed -- and even angry -- that such a great classic in American musical theatre was handled so poorly ... for $130 per ticket.)

The Plays
This is an exceptionally strong year for plays on Broadway, it seems to me, and the audiences seem to realize and appreciate that. Houses were packed at the ones we saw (which is often not the case for plays); and curtain responses were loud, standing, and prolonged.

This is a year of stellar individual performances, too, in plays. The play and set of performances that will forever stay with me is "Waiting for Godot," a play not given much attention by the awards this year, but one that is a stunner in every respect for Ed and me. Oh my -- the four leads alone are worth a trip across country: the incomparable, Emmett-Kelly-like Bill Irwin (maybe currently my favorite actor), the always funny and gripping Nathan Lane (whom we have now seen several times), the powerful and commanding John Goodman (probably the commanding performance from this play I will never forget), and the disciplined and haunting John Glover (who somehow drools a virtual river for minutes at a time). As an ensemble, I cannot imagine how they could be better. And as a twosome, Bill and Nathan so reminded us of Laurel and Hardy, Abbot and Costello, and other great clownish twosomes of the past. Unfortunately, this play is about to close. We feel so blessed to have seen it before that happens. We only saw one other of the Best Revival nominees ("Mary Stuart"), but our belated vote for "BEST" definitely goes to this over-looked production.

And while all the other Best New Play nominees have come and gone from B'Way, we were so fortunate to see the powerfully funny and emotionally gripping "God of Carnage," which did win Best New Play and all four of whose actors deservedly were nominated for best acting awards. This play has the feel many times of "Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?" and the crazy humor and surprises of "Lieutenant of Inishmore." The actors are leaping, chasing, screaming, crying, and keeping you in stitches the entire play. This is another one that I hope ACT or Berkeley Rep will do in the next year or so.

I try to see Angela Lansbury whenever I can. She is stunningly funny in "Blithe Spirit," one of my favorite Noel Coward plays. Each of the actors in this production is again outstanding (a common theme this year, I know). The maid, as always, often steals the show. Another of our favorites, Christine Ebersole, is fantastic as the dead, returning wife -- and Little Edie from "Grey Gardens" sometimes reappears in her voice, which is fun, too. Unfortunately, this show closes in another week.

Another favorite actor of my and Ed's whom we will jump all hurdles to see is David Hyde Pierce. In "Accent on Youth," he once again did not fail to do anything but delight. This is a very well-written, funny play and kicked off our week of plays/musicals with a bang. (It too just closed its limited run.)

I can think of no other play that I enjoy reading and seeing more than "Our Town." I have seen it probably more than any other non-Shakespeare play. So, it is with both anticipated excitement as well as some skepticism that I approach each new viewing. Barrow Street's new production (now on an extended Off-Broadway run) exceeded all my and Ed's expectations. In a very intimate setting where audience sits on three sides of a small stage, where the audience can reach out and touch actors a foot in front of them, where the number of equity actors (23) is 15-20% of the people present in the arena, and where the audience is in the same dress as the actors in the fully lighted venue -- in such a setting the audience becomes literally part of "Our Town," with actors and action circling them throughout the play. David Cromer as Stage Manager is probably the best in that role that I or Ed has ever seen. Anyone in New York in the next few months should check out this Greenwich Village offering.

Two other plays we saw did not totally meet our expectations but neither did they really disappoint. "Mary Stewart" has been acclaimed by critics and by friends of ours. The two leading actresses playing Elizabeth and Mary received Best Actress nominations and are outstanding. The play, however, is like two different plays in its two acts. We, and by response our fellow play-goers, found the first act to be slow and bit laborious. Much of that act is a set of monologues as various people make the case for and against beheading Mary. At intermission, we expressed surprise, boredom, and a wondering of what all the acclaim was about. However, as soon as the curtain rises for the second act, we were on the edge of our seats for the rest of the play. The performances, the writing, and the direction at that point were gripping in every respect. If we had been late and unseated until the second act, we would have probably left saying it was one of the top three shows we saw this year.

We pick plays sometimes just to see a particular actor, even if we are skeptical about the play. So it was with "The Philanthropist," starring among others, Matthew Broderick (someone I have followed and loved his whole career). Both play and Matthew did not quite live up to our hopes. Neither was terrible by any means, and I think we are glad we went; but I could not recommend someone else go, based on our experience -- which is OK because we saw the final performance. (Our hope earlier was that Matthew's wife, Sarah Jessica Parker, would be in attendance the last performance of the run; but they just received through a surrogate mom twin girls three days prior.)

I realize that we are building a list of favorite actors whom we have now seen multiple times and whom we will make every effort to see in New York and beyond (e.g., go to LA to see if they are appearing):

Men: David Hyde Pierce, Bill Irwin, Cheyene Jackson, Nathan Lane,
Women: Audra McDonald, Patti Lupone, Angela Lansbury, Christine Ebersole, Cherry Jones
(We also have a Bay Area list that include such folks as Mark Phillips and Craig Marker, among others.)

We didn't just see shows in New York. We also ...

--> Had meals with past TravelPride cruise buds (Marty and Rich, Dan and Peter).
--> Attended the New York Pride parade and the official, all-night party the prior evening (the "Love Ball").
--> Spent two (very) late evenings our wonderful cousins Scott, Stephano, and Idonna.
--> Went on two Big Onion Walking Tours: The History of the Financial District and The History of Harlem.
--> Spent three days with our life-long, Washington D.C. friend, Phyllis, who once again this year joined us for theater and dinners at Aureole (which we HIGHLY recommend in its brand-new, 42nd Street setting), Blue Water Grill, and Sardi's (where Phyllis is greeted as we enter by the manager and waiters much like Dolly was -- just without the singing and dancing).
--> Closed our favorite gay bars/clubs (esp. Splash and Monster) each night between 4 and 5, since we stayed on West Coast time and did not get up each morning until 11:30 or so.
--> Shopped on Loehmann's Bargain Basement and all of our favorite Chelsea stores.
--> Explored two different days large parts of Central Park.
--> Spent an evening into the wee morning at "Don't Tell Mama," a highly popular and crowded piano bar on W, 48th that has a great pianist/singer each night but also invites a constant flow of entertainers up from the audience, all of whom must be unemployed but very excellent B'Way potentials.
--> Walked about 150 blocks every day.
--> Had martinis in only the way you can get them in New York.
--> Got soaked in a couple of rain storms (I forget how BIG raindrops can be back East in the summer) but also thanked our stars that we once again this year missed the hot, humid weather that everyone says New York often suffers during the summer.

So, there you have it. More than you ever wanted to know. And dare I add, "I LOVE NEW YORK!!

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Thursday, July 09, 2009

New York City Preview

We were able to attend some of New York City pride parade. We met friends for breakfast and then walked over to 5th Ave to watch an hour and a half before we left for a matinee show. A couple parade photos:

Eddie is writing up detailed summary of our trip that I will post soon. Until then, I will tell you that one of the biggest disappointments we had for the revival version of West Side Story. We felt it was badly cast and directed.
This video is much better version.

link: http://www.collegehumor.com/video:1913584

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Thursday, June 25, 2009

Pride 2009

We are unfortunately going to miss San Francisco Pride again this year because of our trip to New York City. We are hoping we can make it to some NYC pride parties.

YouTube video called "Pride 2009". It is a celebration of GLBTQ pride and the 40th anniversary of the Stonewall Rebellion, the birth of gay pride.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KEpqTIolLps

GuyDads pride news.
The blog “John and Steve are having a baby” profiles 16 gay families. We are please to be among such amazing and inspiring households.

The Lesbian and Gay Foundation in Manchester, England put together a list of 100 informative, entertaining and inspirational blogs. GuyDads made the list. Thanks!

POM juiceSpecial thanks to POM Wonderful for the case of pomegranate juice. On the POM website the company champions the health benefits of pomegranates. I knew it was an excellent source of antioxidants. But it was news to me that the juice improved cardiovascular blood flow, prostate health and erectile function. Wow, just what a gay Jewish man needs for Pride weekend. The Jewish symbolism of pomegranates is one of righteousness and fruitfulness.

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Friday, June 12, 2009

What to wear to the Opera

Rainbow series night at the SF OperaAbout once a month, someone lands on this blog by Googling “What to wear to the Opera”. I had used that phrase several years ago when I wrote about one of my first experiences of attending an opera. But my entry back then didn’t really answer the Google question. In interest of being helpful and informative, I did some research. Here are the recommendations from several prominent opera companies on what to wear to the performance:

San Francisco Opera says: “Many years ago opera was just for the elite class and royalty, and thus patrons felt it necessary to dress to the nines when attending opera. Nowadays, opera is open to everyone and there is no dress code. People come to the opera dressed in everything from jeans to evening gowns, so please feel free to attend the opera in whatever clothes you feel comfortable.” More info

Lobby of the War Memorial Opera House in SFNew York Metropolitan Opera says: “There is no dress code at the Met. People dress more formally for Galas or openings of new productions, but this is optional. We recommend comfortable clothing appropriate for a professional setting.” More info

Washington National Opera: “recommends business attire but has no official dress code for attendance. Opening nights are traditionally more formal than other performances.” More info

Dallas Opera says: “Business attire is the norm, but anything goes, from jeans to your favorite evening gown! You’ll see more formal attire on opening night and at Saturday night performances; the mid-week performance tends to be a bit more casual. However, the rule of thumb is simple: If it makes you feel like a million bucks, wear it!” More info

Pre show drink, anyone?This is also good advice from the Lyric Opera of Chicago: “Perfumes, hairsprays, colognes, lotions, and other scented toiletries should be avoided or used sparingly when attending the opera, as allergies are commonplace.”

The same fashion advice applies if you are also attending the Theatre, Symphony or Ballet.

The summer opera season has started up again in San Francisco. Last night we saw “Tosca”. We are also seeing “Porgy and Bess” and “La Traviata”.
Want to know what I wear to the opera? Ask my husband; he picks it out. I got tired of hearing “you are not wearing THAT, are you?”

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Tuesday, June 09, 2009

Broadway Bound

We had a fun time watching the Tony Awards at a friend’s house. It has to be one of the sincerest gay nights on television. It is a celebration of art, talent and commercial success of the Broadway season.

The handsome and talented host Neil Patrick Harris sings the “Eleven O'Clock Number” to close the 63rd Tony Awards.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oYjSwbte3G4

We are jazzed and excited about our upcoming trip to New York City. We will be there for 9 days and have tickets for 14 shows!
- Accent on Youth - play
- The Philanthropist - play
- Rock of Ages - musical
- 9 to 5 - musical
- West Side Story - musical
- Shrek - musical
- Mary Stuart - play
- Next to Normal - musical
- Billy Elliot - musical
- Hair - musical
- Blithe Spirit - play
- God of Carnage - play
- Waiting for Godot - play
- Our Town - play

E was able to get most of the tickets at a discount ahead of time. There are several websites that offer advance tickets:
* BroadwayBox.com - discount tickets for select Broadway and Off-Broadway, also Las Vegas and London.
* Playbill.com - discount tickets for select Broadway and Off-Broadway by joining Playbill Club
* Theatremania.com - discount tickets for select Broadway and Off-Broadway by joining discount list.

Last year’s trip we saw 13 shows.

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Thursday, May 28, 2009

Gay iPhone Apps

Gay iPhone AppsApple says there’s an iPhone app for just about everything. When E and I bought our iPhones at the beginning of May, I decided to put that claim to a test. Guess what the first thing I searched for? Yes, gay applications. Not surprisingly there were several dozen apps showing up in a gay search of the iTunes Store. Here is a brief rundown on many of the apps targeted for GLBT users. I have downloaded and tested over a dozen of the free apps.

The best gay iPhone apps that I found are “Edge” and “GayCities”. They are informative, practical and useful for the entire LGBT community.

Gay News.
Gay news app EDGEEdge
– Actually it is more than just news. It is like getting GLBT lifestyle magazine (news, entertainment, style, business, tech, travel and nightlife) on a mobile app. It has been one of the few apps I use everyday. I love it. I was already receiving their daily emails and have visited their website at http://www.edgesanfrancisco.com/ many times. There articles have depth. They are much more than a two sentence RSS feed. The breath of coverage is amazing too. This app demonstrates what magazines and newspapers could morph into in the future. I find it easier to use than the similar news application I downloaded, the NYTimes app.
Rachel Maddow news appRachel Maddow – MSNBC commentator and the first openly lesbian anchor to host a prime-time news program in the US. App features news, photos, videos and podcasts of her show.

Travel guide and business locator.
GayCitiesGayCities
– It primarily features the listings of gay-friendly restaurants, bars, hotels, and beaches in over 70 cities worldwide. We’ve used it while we were out and about in San Francisco, Palm Springs, and NYC for both reviews and directions. It is a useful and helpful mobile travel guide. It is a gay version of the app Yelp. We have also posted reviews of places we’ve been to at their website, http://www.gaycities.com/
There are several paid gay travel apps such as “Gay New York” ($1.99), “Gay London” ($1.99), “Gay Swiss Travel” ($2.99), “GayBook”(France) ($1.99), "Sitges" ($0.99). They seem pricy when you consider all the similar free travel apps available. We downloaded the free “Amsterdam Mobile Guide” since we are going there this August.

Gay Social Networking.
These five apps offer a way to locate, connect, message, share photos and chat with other online guys. They can be a sort of an iPhone version of Craigslist M4M and Manhunt if you are looking for a hookup. It is also fun to just see who is on and gay around you. I’ve installed five of these apps and list them below in order of preference.
Gay app GRINDRGrindr – This one is my favorite despite having the least amount of features. It is a simple who’s here, gay and has an iPhone? It appears to have more local guys on it. I suspect the popularity varies by region and age. Sorts current logged in users from a few feet to hundreds of miles. Although I am not looking for a date or hookup, I have had nice chats with a half-dozen local guys. Drawbacks compared with the other apps are that one can only post 1 picture in your profile and there is not much space to write or describe interests. Grindr X is a paid version ($2.99) with mobil maps and no advertising.
WhosHereWhosHere – This app works for all sexes and orientations. One can view profiles that meet criteria for friends, dating, networking or location. The app allows posting up to 4 pictures in your profile. Has more room for listing information than Grindr. Can send and receive messages and pictures. Not as many local users as Grindr.
Purpll-Gay Life AppPurpll-gay life – Combines gay social networking with mobile maps. Also allows listing of gay places (bars, clubs, dances, etc.) and events (parties, gatherings, etc.). One can post public and private photos. The app has many of extra search and news features. I haven’t tested them all yet. Navigating from one screen to another can be slow.
Boy Ahoy gay dating appBoy Ahoy – Mobile app for social dating site skout.com. The app allows for many pictures to be posted in profile. Most users appear to be very young…18 to 20ish. Not many local users. Can send private pictures and messages and has a Twitter-like news feed and multiple search options.
Gay Community AppGay Community App – Similar to the other gay messaging and connecting apps with a large suite of features. It is designed to help you find and connect with members of the GLBT community. One can also post 3 pictures in their profile. The Gaydar function locates local people with accounts. Navigating from one screen to another can be slow. This is when I experienced the most crashes with this app. It is my least favorite.
There are several other free dating and meeting apps that I didn’t download: “Gay Chat”, “Gay SpeedDate” and "Web is Pink". There are several pay social network apps listed below too.

Music.
There are endless music choices and apps for the iPhone. Three that come up on a gay search are the following:
iHeartRadio appiHeartRadio – A collection of Clear Channel radio stations from around the US. SF Bay Area stations include Star 101.3, KISS 98.1, KMEL 106, Wild 94.9. The app also offers a variety of other internet music channels such as Pride Radio (Pop & Dance with a Gay Sensibility), Smooth Jazz, New Country, Real Oldies, etc.
GIRL music appGIRL radio – Gay Internet Radio Live (GIRL). Non-stop dance mixes from GLBT Radio Network. A non-stop blend of party, dance, club and circuit sounds.
GAY FM Radio - a gay dance music station from Berlin, Germany. Hits and remixes from around the world.

Games.
Games that sound gay but are really a straight fascination of all things phallic. These iPhone games are some of the most downloaded free games.
Balls - Interactive finger entertainment. Play with balls by dragging, tapping or shaking them on the screen.
PapiMissle, PapiPole – Artillery game.
Pee Monkey Toilet Trainer – Test precision skills.
Pocket Tanks – Artillery game.
Shaft - Precision skills game.
Sword Drill - Bible verse game (!)
Swords Fight - Fighting sounds effects for $0.99.
TouchWood - Interactive finger entertainment for the superstitious.
UrinalTest gameUrinal Test – Determine how well a straight man will pick the “right” urinal in the men's room.


Paid Apps.
I have not downloaded any of the Paid Gay Apps available. Here is a list of some of them I found while searching.
AMG Brasil Boys - rate photos of shirtless Brazilian male models for $0.99. A very tame app from a gay porn studio.
Calendar Studs - described as "gay friendly" collection of male models for $0.99.
Dating DNA Plus – dating app for $4.99
ePrideGuide – gay business listings app for $1.99
Exotic Rainbow Guys - 10 male models for $0.99
Gay Daily News - news updates from an unnamed source for $4.99
GaydarApp – interactive social networking app for $1.99. Free Gaydar Light version is available too.
Gay History Project - 150 LGBT historical events, places and people for $2.99
GayNews – Offers a collection of gay news feeds for $0.99. I love the free Edge news app.
Gay Pride – pride wallpaper images for iPhone $0.99
Gay Quote appGay Quotes – quotes, pictures, history and trivia app for $1.99. UPDATE: I downloaded this app. It is fun for the times when you have nothing to do and you just want to idly play with your iPhone. It is an interesting collection of photos and quotes. Not everyone quoted is gay or speaks of gay rights. There are a lot of general quotes about life, love, equality and justice.
Gay Symbols and Slogans - collection of symbols that represent the GLBT community for $0.99.
Guys of the CLUB – rate photos of male models for $2.99
Guy Wall – male wallpaper images from Hans Fahrmeyer for iPhone $0.99
Hottest Guys Sexy Men - rate photos of male models for $1.99
iDateGay – gay dating app for $4.99
iGay - gay dating app for $9.99
iPropose – hack boyfriend’s phone and see if he still wants to marry you. $0.99
ManLight - combination app of flashlight and photos of male models for $0.99
MyGayGo appMyGayGo – List of gay businesses. I’ve seen ads in the GLBT press for this $2.99 app. Seems very similar to GayCities which is free.
Pride – a comment sharing app for $1.99; free “light” version only displays comments.
Surf Boys - photos of male models for $0.99

Lifestyle.
Other interesting free apps for a better gay lifestyle:
5800 Cocktails5800+ Drink & Cocktail Recipes – Exactly what it says. Drink recipes at your fingertips. Create a favorites list, browse drink categories, and search for specific recipe.
Daily Dish - Practice to be your own celebrity gossip columnist. Will you be the new Perez Hilton or Pink is the New Blog?
Yelp - A local search and reviews online mobile service based on their website. Great for when you are on the go. GayCities is a similar app for gay and gay friendly businesses. We like and use both apps.
AroundMe - It allows you to quickly find out information about your surroundings. Great at locating banks, bars, gas stations, hotels, theatres, parking lots, restaurants, taxis, etc.
Shazam – An app that lets you identify music tracks and tag and buy them.
Facebook for iPhone – Now you can always stay connected. If you are still on MySpace, an app is available for that too.
Pandora Radio – Create your own personalized radio stream on your iPhone.
OpenTable – We use this all the time to make dinner reservations and to find and try new restaurants. You also earn points towards free meals. We have saved several hundred dollars this way.
Cool Guy appCool Guy – A clothes style planner and shopping assistant. You take pictures of each item in your wardrobe with your iPhone and categorize it with this app. I didn’t download this app. I have no gay fashion sense. But I could see my husband using it.

Porn.
Apple tries hard to keep up a squeaky clean image by insisting that its iTunes Apps store does not offer anything with porn. But seriously, this may be the one App you don’t need for an iPhone. After all, you are holding in your hands a lean, sexy camera phone with an internet hookup. What other tools would you need or desire? Still not sure? Check out this website, Guys with iPhones. [Note: Totally Not Safe For Work – Wanton Male Nudity]

NOTE: I have updated and edited this list multiple times as I find and try out more apps.

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Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Prop 8 news and song



Twenty-four youtubers and one mother collaborated and appeared in this sweet music video of a Lily Allen song. The creative force behind the project said he wanted to “make something light hearted and funny for the victims of gay hate, to teach them to brush off the hate and stand strong and confident as who they are.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tuDJmVkPYpw

I agree with my friend Mike who linked to this video saying he "has just one thing to say to the 52% of Californians that get to dictate how the other 48% should live. And it's best said through song."

Update. I love this video. Here is another collaboration from French youtubers:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UV26OMSb_VQ

This video, The Defenders (2009), first made me laugh and then cry. It is part of the “Educate against Prop 8” campaign. It takes its cue from the Martin Niemöller poem of “…When they came for me, there was no one left to speak out for me.”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QNiqfRyoAyA

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Friday, May 22, 2009

Family Celebrations

Last weekend our oldest son graduated from Law School in San Francisco. Yea, job well done! Now he is studying for the California bar exam.

My sister and her husband just had a baby girl. The cute kid is named Tara. Welcome!

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Friday, May 01, 2009

Local videos on Youtube

Two Stanford University undergraduate filmmakers, Abteen Bagheri-Fard and Jay Kilachand, have released this music video in support of same sex marriage. It is called “Gotta Get Wed”.

Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEjOY6hgkfU
Let California Ring site, an educational campaign launched by the Equality California Institute.

Also at Stanford: Condoleezza Rice, former Stanford Provost and new Hoover Fellow, met with a group of undergraduate students earlier this week for a dinner and reception at Roble dorm. She get a little defensive when the questions of torture come up.

Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijEED_iviTA

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Thursday, April 30, 2009

Out and about April recap

It has been another busy month for GuyDads. There has not been much time for blogging.
- We will have seen six plays by the end of the month. It has been a mixed bag as for the quality of the shows.
* “Act A Lady” at New Conservatory Theatre Center had the potential to be a campy fun. The men of a small Prohibition-era town decide to put on a play dressed in "fancy-type, women-type clothes," the whole community is affected. Unfortunately, the production was dull and uninspired.
* The biggest theatrical frustration is the continued lack of sustained artistic vision by the Bay Area’s largest theatre company, A.C.T.. Their production of “War Music” was a modern interpretation of Homer's Iliad. It was mind-numbingly dull and unctuously self-important. Two of their three shows so far this year have been an artistic bomb.
Ryan Peters and Craig Marker in SF Playhouse play THE STORY* There were, however, two surprising, excellent plays. “The Story” by Tracey Scott Wilson at San Francisco Playhouse tells the story of an ambitious reporter going against her editor to investigate a murder and ends up reporting an unbelievable human interest story. The play explores the elusive nature of truth between reality and fiction; and where morality and ambition become dangerously blurred.
* The second play is “Distracted” by Lisa Loomer at TheatreWorks. It is a funny, well balanced, thoughtful look at a family dealing with ADD. It also had an amazing video set.
* Play number five was “SF Follies”. This was an enjoyable review similar to “Beach Blanket Babylon”.
* The sixth show is Woody Allen’s “The Floating Light Bulb” at Traveling Jewish Theatre. We see it tonight.

- We went to two San Francisco Symphony concerts: 1) Carl Orff’s “Carmina burana” with 4 other choral pieces and 2) Bizet’s “Music from L’Arlésienne”, Poulenc’s “Concerto in G minor for Organ, String Orchestra, and Timpani”, and Vaughan Williams’ “The Lark Ascending”, and his “Symphony No. 4 in F minor”.
- Visited the new Contemporary Jewish Museum and saw two exhibits: “New Works/Old Story: 80 Artists at the Passover Table” and “Jews on Vinyl”.
- Attended 5 Giants baseball games including opening day.
- Spent a Saturday night at a bed and breakfast in San Francisco and checked out the Dolores Park Easter celebration with The Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.
GuyDads toasting on the Big Gay Wine Tour Bus- Signed up for an all day wine tour in Napa Valley called “Energy 92.7 Big Gay Wine Tasting Day”. We toured 4 wineries; had pastries for breakfast, played “Petanque” – a French style of Bocce ball; enjoyed a catered, garden lunch and bought two and a half cases of wine.
- We attended one benefit dinner for Facing History and Ourselves. The keynote speaker was the highly regarded education professor from Stanford, Linda Darling-Hammond. She spoke on what needs to happen to improve the current state of our schools. Next month we have 2 benefit dinners to attend.
- We hosted two Friday night Shabbat dinners. One with two other gay couples and one with family.
- As mentioned in an early entries (here, here and here), we hosted a first night Passover Seder for 16 gay men. E spent at least three days cooking and preparing for it.

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Wednesday, April 22, 2009

A Gathering Storm response

Finally an excellent video that takes on the myths that the anti-equality, anti-gay people spew about perceived loss of religious freedoms. It features real clergy (not actors) from Massachusetts answering how same-sex marriage, legal for the last 5 years, has affected religion.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MJF5TREeliw

I love these parodies of the vile, hateful, anti-gay ad put out by the National Organization for Marriage.



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Happy Earth Day

April 22nd was also my first wife’s birthday. Lori would have been 51 today but she died of Multiple Sclerosis (MS) when she was 30. We met in college. I first saw her when she moved into the dorm room across the hall from me freshman year (fall 1976). We dated on and off for the next 5 years in college. Lori spent her junior year abroad. She studied Norwegian and Psychology in Bergen, Norway. She also worked two summers in a tobacco shop in Bergen.
[This is my favorite photo of Lori taken when she was 20.]

At the end of college, not knowing what else to do, we got married. Shortly afterwards she was diagnosed with MS. We had one daughter.
[Photo of my very cool former mother-in-law and my daughter that was taken 2 years ago.]

Lori especially enjoyed Earth Day while in college at UC Davis in the late ‘70s and early ‘80s. There was always a celebration around it with bands, workshops, and parties.

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Friday, April 10, 2009

A Gay Pesach

We had a wonderful Pesach dinner with 16 guys.

E’s incredible culinary Passover menu included:
- Irma's Cherry, Date, Raisin, Prune, Pear Charoset
- Tasty Charoset Balls on Apricots Topped with Toasted Almonds
- Canyon Ranch Charoset (Many Fruits and Nuts)

- Salmon in Tomato, Rhubarb & Blood Orange Sauce

- Roasted Carrot Soup on a Base of Roasted Vegetable Stock with Matzah Balls of Sage & Parsley

- Roasted Asparagus Bundles with Toasted Matzah
- Roasted Pear and Potatoes with Watercress Puree and Toasted Walnuts
- Springtime 6-Vegetable Kugel
- Dried Apricots, Smoked Turkey & Leeks Stuffed Chicken Breast Coated in Pecans

- Mango & Sour Cherry Macaroon Crumble with Coconut Sorbet
- Strawberry and Rhubarb Pudding with Vanilla Ice Cream

E pulled our service together from at least four different Haggadahs. This year we used readings from the Stonewall Seder and JQ International GLBT Haggadah for the first time. We also used readings from “Haggadah Z’man Heruteynu: The Season of Freedom Telling” and “A Night of Questions: A Passover Haggadah”. Everyone enjoyed performing a role the play and singing songs that told about the Jewish liberation from slavery in Egypt.

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Wednesday, April 08, 2009

Remembering Gay Jewish Heroes

“We gather together tonight as a community to remember the bondage of our ancestors and the struggles of those that continue today, so that we may be inspired to cherish the freedom we now have, to recognize the bondage of those who are not yet free, and to encourage our collective call to help in the struggle to free all people and to value all people equally. On these evenings, the bond of friendship, love, family and community reaches out from within - as from this gathering – to unite all humankind in remembering our collective history in hope for tomorrow.”
From the JQ International GLBT Haggadah

OUR QUEER JEWISH HISTORY TOWARD FREEDOM:
A TIMELINE OF A FEW OF OUR MANY GAY HEROES


Magnus Hirschfeld1897: Magnus Hirschfeld, a prominent Jewish doctor, formed the world’s first homosexual rights organization in Berlin with the goal of repealing the laws criminalizing homosexuality in Germany. By 1912, 3000 doctors, many of them Jewish, had joined him in urging the laws’ repeal.

Gad Beck1939: Gad Beck, a gay Jewish teenager living in Hitler’s Germany joins the Jewish underground smuggling food, arranging housing and helping Jews escape from Berlin, often by bribing German officials.

1945: As labor and death camps were liberated in Europe, thousands of homosexual inmates who had survived were not considered in the years to come by East and West Germany as well as Britain, US and USSR to have been unjustly imprisoned, since in all those countries, homosexuality remained a crime. Many ‘liberated’ inmates were in fact once again imprisoned. Paragraph 175 was a provision of the German Criminal Code from 1871 to 1994 that prohibited sex between men.

Rudi Gernreich1950: Jewish refugee and fashion designer Rudi Gernreich along with his lover, activist Harry Hay, co-found the Mattachine Society in Los Angeles, CA. The Society is the earliest, sustaining, gay liberation organization in the US. Organizing principles called for creating a service and welfare organization devoted to challenging anti-gay discrimination and building a gay community.

Allen Ginsberg1955: Alan Ginsberg authors the poem “Howl,” which contains gay sexual imagery. He is very open about his sexuality and is an early proponent of freedom for men who loved other men.
"who howled on their knees in the subway and were dragged off the roof waving genitals and manuscripts,
"who let themselves be f--ked in the ass by saintly motorcyclists, and screamed with joy,
"who blew and were blown by those human seraphim, the sailors, caresses of Atlantic and Caribbean love,
"who balled in the morning in the evenings in rose gardens and the grass of public parks and cemeteries scattering their semen freely to whomever come who may,”


Stonewall Bar 19691969: Stonewall Rebellion in NYC. On that night the police set out to raid a gay bar, the Stonewall Inn, on the pretext they were just enforcing the NY State law that made it illegal to serve alcohol to known homosexuals. The riot that ensued is often cited as the first instance of American gays and lesbians fighting back and taking a stand for gay liberation. Beginning that night, the lives of gays and lesbians, and the attitude toward them in the larger US culture began to change rapidly. People began to identify in public as homosexuals, demanding respect.
Alan Ginsberg appears on the second night of the Stonewall Inn riots to tell the crowd, "Gay power! Isn't that great!... It's about time we did something to assert ourselves." One month after the riots, NYC’s first ever “Gay Power” rally was held in Washington Square. Marty Robinson and Martha Shelley spoke. The speeches were followed by a candlelight march to Stonewall Inn. Five hundred people showed up.

Marty Robinson1970: Marty Robinson, Jim Owles, Arthur Evans, and others form the Gay Activists Alliance (GAA) after breaking away from the Gay Liberation Front (GLF). Robinson popularized an activist tool he called “zaps”. Zaps were direct, non-violent actions to confront oppressors. It forced gay and lesbian concerns onto the public agenda for the first time. Among its early achievements was stopping the routine police raids on gay bars and having the first gay rights bill in the world introduced into New York City’s Council.

Marc Rubin and Pete Fisher1971: A gay Jewish activist couple, Marc Rubin (a school teacher) and Pete Fisher, walk into the City Clerk’s office of New York with a large wedding cake and along with other Gay Activist Alliance (GAA) members, took over the office and declared that the City was now offering same-sex marriage licenses. Their courage and act of liberation inspired one local politician, David Dinkins, who remembered the event after becoming mayor, and subsequently ordered New York to register same sex “domestic partners” and grant them some of the benefits offered straight partners in the City.

1972: Two gay men and two lesbians decide to form their own synagogue in Los Angeles. Beth Chayim-Chadashim holds its first service in July, 1972 and is chartered by the Reform Jewish movement in 1974 as not only the first gay and lesbian synagogue but the first gay religious organization of any kind to be officially recognized by an American national body.
Today there are about thirty gay-specific synagogues in North America. Congregation Beth Simchat Torah in NYC was founded in 1973. South Florida's Congregation Etz Chaim in 1974; Philadelphia's Congregation Beth Ahavah in 1975 and Chicago's Congregation Or Chadash in 1976. Congregation Sha'ar Zahav was established in San Francisco in 1977.

David B. Goodstein1974: David B. Goodstein buys the LA Advocate, building it from a local newspaper into the largest circulating gay magazine in the world. He was instrumental in attaining the passage of California's consensual sex legislation in 1974, and, together with Steve Endean, founded the Gay Rights National Lobby in 1976, and HRC in 1980.

Harvey Milk1977: Harvey Milk becomes the first openly gay man elected to a public office in the United States. Milk didn’t get involved in politics, gay activism or become open about his sexuality until after age 40. Yet, Anne Kronenberg, his final campaign manager, wrote of him: "What set Harvey apart from you or me was that he was a visionary. He imagined a righteous world inside his head and then he set about to create it for real, for all of us."

Rabbi Allen Bennett1978: Rabbi Allen Bennett allows himself to be outed in the San Francisco Chronicle, becoming the first out gay rabbi in the US. He was Congregation Sha'ar Zahav’s first rabbi. He delivered Harvey Milk’s eulogy.

Martin Sherman1979: Martain Sherman’s play “Bent” opens on Broadway and is nominated for a Tony Award in 1980. This play is the first to deal with the treatment of homosexuals by the Nazis during World War II. The play was the first time that popular culture had acknowledged the fact that the gay men were victims of the Holocaust.

Larry Kramer1980: Larry Kramer witnesses the first spread of the disease that became known as Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS) among his friends, and he co-founds the Gay Men's Health Crisis (GMHC), which has become the largest private organization to assist people living with AIDS in the world. Later, when he felt GMHC was not doing enough to stop the epidemic, he founded ACT UP in 1987.

Harvey Fierstein1981: Harvey Fierstein'sTorch Song Trilogy” debuts on Broadway and runs for almost three years. The play introduces theatergoers to a world in which gay people make and keep commitments to one another instead of despairing over their homosexuality. It champions a gay man’s longings for love and family.

Richard Berkowitz1983: Richard Berkowitz, a former SM hustler, in conjunction with fellow activists Dr. Joseph Sonnabend and the musician Michael Callen, publish “How to Have Sex in an Epidemic: One Approach,” which is widely acknowledged to be the first “safer sex” material on record. Berkowitz dared to suggest that a gay lifestyle of excess was not liberating us but killing us. He called for safer sex practices without giving up on sex altogether. “He made safe sex sexy,” despite being criticized and despised by the gay community at the time.

Barney Frank1987: Barney Frank comes out and is the first gay congressional representative to do so on his own volition. He has become one of the most prominent openly gay politicians in the United States. Frank is one of the brightest and most energetic defenders of civil rights issues.

Tony Kushner1992: Tony Kushner, playwright and screenwriter, receives the Pulitzer Prize for Drama for his play, “Angels in America: A Gay Fantasia on National Themes”. New York Times theater critic Frank Rich called it "a searching and radical rethinking" of American political drama and "the most extravagant and moving demonstration imaginable" of the artistic response to AIDS.

David Geffen1992: David Geffen, a powerful and wealthy self-made Hollywood media mogul, comes out after years of hiding his sexuality (including dating and almost marrying Cher) when being honored for his extraordinary financial contributions to the fight against AIDS. Geffen has developed a reputation as a prominent philanthropist for his publicized support of medical research, AIDS organizations, the arts and theatre.

Michael Tilson Thomas1995: Michael Tilson Thomas is appointed the music director of the San Francisco Symphony. He is one of the most prominent American conductors of his generation. And is the first gay conductor to achieve such distinction without masking or hiding his sexuality.

Rabbi Steven Greenberg1999: Rabbi Steven Greenberg challenges tradition and becomes the first Orthodox rabbi ever to publicly declare his homosexuality. This has made Greenberg a focus for criticism and praise, as well as a symbol of the growing voice of the Jewish gay movement.

Uzi Even2002: Uzi Even is sworn in as the first openly gay member of Israel’s parliament, the Knesset. He had been kicked out of the Israeli army for being gay. In 1993, Even led the successful campaign to end Israel’s ban on gay and lesbian service members. Even and his partner adopted a teenage gay son whom they are raising together.

Mark Leno2002: Mark Leno, former rabbinic student, is one of the first two openly gay men to be elected to the California Assembly and the first elected to the state senate. In 2005 and 2007, he authored bills that would legalizing same-sex marriages. These bills became the first of its kind to pass a legislative body in the United States. But each time the bill was vetoed by Governor Schwarzenegger.

Paul Colichman and Stephen Jarchow of HERE! network2002: Paul Colichman and his straight business partner, Stephen Jarchow, found HERE!, America’s first LGBT dedicated cable TV network and Regent Entertainment. In 2008 they completed the acquisition of the "Advocate" and other gay media publicatons and websites. Colichman said, "Gay liberation started in 1969 in New York with the Stonewall riots. There came a point in history where we said enough is enough. We're going to start to fight. It's been a 30-year fight. It is the civil rights movement of our generation."

Jared Polis2008: Jared Polis, internet entrepreneur, becomes the first openly gay man elected to the US House of Representatives as a freshman for the state of Colorado. “I think it’s important to live one’s life openly and honestly, and I certainly do that. I treat it as I would my religion. If people ask, I’m happy to tell them about it,” said Polis in a recent interview.

2008: Three gay couples at our Passover Seder, and 18,000 other couples marry each other in California – joining thousands of couples in Massachusetts and Connecticut (and soon Iowa and Vermont) as well as thousands more in Belgium, Canada, Netherlands, Norway, South Africa, Spain, and Sweden.

Activists, artists, businessmen, politicians, rabbis, teachers, and writers. What an amazing Seder table it would be to have these men around it. In reality, there probably is not a room big enough to hold them and their egos, agendas and attitudes. But they all exemplified Jewish values in a gay context of giving back to the community and working to make the world a better place.

Honorable mention – A few more of my favorite gay, Jewish playwrights and theatre composers: Howard Ashman, Jon Robin Baitz, Leonard Bernstein, Charles Busch, Fred Ebb, William Finn, Richard Greenberg, Lorenz Hart, Moss Hart, Jerry Herman, Moisés Kaufman, Arthur Laurents, Craig Lucas, Paul Rudnick, Marc Shaiman, Stephen Sondheim.

[A list of some prominent LGBT Jews.]

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Monday, April 06, 2009

Haggadah for Gays

We are getting ready to host a gay men’s Passover Seder on Wednesday night. 16 guys will be joining us.

This year we found two interesting gay haggadahs on the internet. We are going to incorporate pieces from both into our haggadah.
First is the Stonewall Seder. It was first done at a synagogue in NYC during Pride month in 1996. It has been revised several times since.
Second is the JQ International GLBT Haggadah. “Developed by JQ International in collaboration with Hebrew Union College’s Institute for Judaism & Sexual Orientation. The GLBT Haggadah integrates GLBT Passover traditions within the spirit of the traditional Passover.”

In honor of all the matzah we will eat, here is a song to celebrate:

20 Things To Do With Matzah by Michelle Citrin and William Levin

link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xMSEFCQCKPo

More humorous haggadahs:
A Facebook Haggadah: Moses is Departing Egypt
The Graduate Student Haggadah

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Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Activism: Making a difference

Jack Weinstein (L) from Facing History and Ourselves and Mark Hanis (R) founder of Genocide Intervention NetworkRecently we attended a Community Conversations program presented by Facing History and Ourselves and Allstate Foundation. The speaker was amazing young man, Mark Hanis. He is one of several students at Swarthmore College that founded the Genocide Invention Network (GI-Net) in the fall of 2004. Today, GI-Net educates and empowers individuals and communities with the tools to prevent and stop genocide. GI-Net has created effective tools to lobby elected officials and to fund raise directly for civilian protection. They are a non-profit member-based organization that advocates for civilian protection in areas where genocide and mass atrocities are occurring.
Genocide Intervention Network
It is very easy to start taking action against genocide. Doing nothing helps the oppressor and encourages the tormentor. The world's leaders need support and pressure from us in order to act — below are some actions you can do right now and have a hand in stopping genocide.
1) Join the Genocide Intervention Network: GI-Net provides the necessary tools to transform concern into effective action.
2) If you are a student or otherwise connected to a college/university or high school, start a STAND chapter. Even if you are unable to start a chapter, sign up on the website for STAND news, local events, advocacy talking points, and more. STAND: A Student Anti-Genocide Coalition is the student arm of the Genocide Intervention Network. There are more than 800 chapters at schools around the United States and a growing number of international chapters.
3) Contribute to the Genocide Intervention Network: Support the peacekeeping mission in Darfur through donations. More than half of your contribution will go directly to support civilian protection. The remaining amount will fund programs, advocacy efforts and provide membership support for the network.
4) Join the Rapid Response Network: There are instances when we need members to take immediate action. You will receive GI-Net action alerts in real time, ensuring that your action makes the maximum impact.

Enjoying the Ecumenical Hunger Program crab feedOn a different note but still impactful on a local level, we attend a crab feast benefit fundraiser for Ecumenical Hunger Program (EHP). This 34 year old, non-profit, community-based organization located in East Palo Alto provides emergency food, clothing, case management, and household essentials to families in need in East Palo Alto, Menlo Park, and Palo Alto. We ate pounds of fresh crabOur neighbor hosted us as her guest. We had a great time eating and bidding on silent auction items. All the proceeds benefited EHP programs. EHP is always looking for community volunteers. Several of E’s boys have volunteered there in the past.

Immigration EqualityAn important GLBT issue working it way through congress in Washington is the Uniting American Families Act (UAFA). This significant piece of legislation would “right a gross unfairness,” according to the Washington Post, by “[allowing] gay and lesbian Americans and permanent residents to sponsor their foreign-born partners for legal residency in the United States.” Click here to let Congress know that Immigration Reform will not be comprehensive unless all families are part of it – including gay and lesbian families. More information at Immigration Equality.

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