GuyDads Thanksgiving 2008

We had three of our kids and five friends over for Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving dinner:
Warm apple soup with spiced croutons
Mama Stamberg's Cranberry Relish
Spiced cranberry and Zinfandel relish
Mustard rubbed roast turkey, 22 pounds
Herbed bread stuffing with mushrooms and turkey sausage
Fruit and nut stuffing
Sliced Brussels spouts, green beans, new potatoes and chanterelle mushrooms sauté
Roasted vegetable galette with olives
Old fashioned sweet potatoes with marshmallow topping
Turkey Chardonnay gravy
Whole-wheat dinner rolls
Dessert:
Pumpkin cheesecake with pomegranate sauce
Zinfandel port cookies
Dark-chocolate bark with pistachio and dried cranberries

Supporters of Prop 8 in my Neighborhood

I think this will be my last list of names. I am tired of going through the database.
This is a list of major individual supporters that contributed $5,000 and above that live within 30 miles up and down the SF peninsula. These are people who didn’t have better things to do with their money than to spend it to take legal rights away from gay and lesbian couples. These are neighbors that really disapproved of my marriage to my husband. They must have felt threatened by it. They were worried that somehow a recognition of my relationship would weaken theirs.

My reasons for researching and listing donors to the Yes on 8 are two fold. First, the Yes people tried to blackmail and shake down..."out" major donors that supported the No campaign. But more importantly, the Yes on 8 campaign was all about trying to instill public fear and hatred of gays and lesbians. The campaign collected and spent millions of dollars to get this message out. These donors help bankroll a despicable campaign of lies, misinformation and fear mongering. They deceived the public that same-sex marriage would hurt children and punish churches.
In the not so distant past, you could make similar fear mongering statements openly about Jews or Blacks and other minorities. One could openly support causes that were hostile to these minority groups. Today it is no longer publicly acceptable or tolerable. You keep your bigoted beliefs to yourself. Gays are the only group you can bash in public and get away with it. It is time for that to stop. One way is to shame these people in public so they don’t do it again.

Their donations to Yes on 8/Protectmarriage.com are political contributions. They are a matter of public record. The State of California makes the information available to anyone. You can look up yourself and see how much we donated to the No on 8 cause. Political contributions are not tax deductible. They are not like gifts you make to a church or charity. You can not write it off on your taxes. Anonymous gifts are not allowed. Campaign reform laws require that the giver provide their name, address, occupation and employer. If they don’t comply, the gift should be returned.

Rose Adams, San Jose, CA, Self-Employed, Quilter, $5,000
Loretta R. Allred, Atherton, CA, Allerd Investors, $50,000
Larry Arnett, Morgan Hill, CA, Space Systems, Engineer, $5,000
Lynette Atkisson, San Francisco, CA, $5,000
Blaine Bowman, Saratoga, CA $10,000
Kristin W. Bowman, Saratoga, CA, $4,950
Michael R. Brand, Palo Alto, CA, Executive VP & Partner, Cornish & Carey Commercial, $15,000 

Philip Carmack, Santa Clara, CA, Nvidia Corp, Senior VP $10,000
Brooke Carmack, Santa Clara, CA, homemaker, $15,000

Jeffrey Christian, Morgan Hill, CA, Phoenix Deventures, Engineer, $5,000
John Crawford, Saratoga, CA, Intel, Computer Architect, $5,000
Lloyd Dickson, Sunnyvale, CA, $5,000
Kenneth Eldred, Portola Valley, CA, CEO of Living Stones Foundation, $25,000
ETS & Associates, Gilroy, CA, $5,000
Daniel Faulk, Morgan Hill, CA, Director and CPA at Crawford, Pimental & Co, $5,000
Cynthia J. Goodsell, Los Gatos, CA, Account Ability, CPA, $5,000
Lee D. Green, San Jose, CA, K-Swiss, Inc., Attorney, $5,000
Hardester Family Partnership, Investments, San Jose, CA $22,500
Edward Helvey, Gilroy, CA, NMHCS, Executive $25,000
Merrill Higham, Belmont, CA, Higham, Richards & Vranes, CPA, $5,000
Richard L. Holbrook, Foster City, CA, Holbrook Global Investors, Investment Advisor, $5,000
Joy N. Hulme, Monte Sereno, CA, Children’s book author, $9,677
Lorraine S. Hulme, Los Gatos, CA $9,977
Laurel C. Hulme, Los Gatos, CA, $4,950
Richard A. Hunter, San Jose, CA, $5,000
Betsy Johnson, Mountain View, CA, $5,000
Kurt D. Johnson, Redwood City, CA, $5,000
Teri L. Jones, Saratoga, CA $24,500
Robert Kenney, Sunnyvale, CA, Golfland Entertainment, VP, $5,000
Ms Louise Kenney, Sunnyvale, CA, $5,060
Brent R. Knudson, Los Gatos, CA, PLGA, Investor, $5,000
Gene Lamoreaux, Sunnyvale, CA, KLA-Tencor Corp., Engineer $8,000
Susan Lathrop, Fremont, CA $9,900
David Lee, Sunnyvale, CA, Netapp, Manager IT Service, $5,000
Ronald K. Lindsay, San Carlos, CA, Lindsay Properties, LLC, Real Estate Developer, $5,000
Parley J. Livingston, Atherton, CA PJMB Commercial, Property Management, $25,000
Sandra Loesch, Gilroy, CA $35,000
Randal Mack, San Jose, CA, Mohler, Nixon & Williams, Accountant, $5,000
Jeffrey Marr, San Jose, CA, Cisco Systems, Engineer, $5,000
R. Dean Merkley, Santa Clara, CA, D & K Real Estate, Realtor, $5,000
Joseph Moran, Los Altos, CA, $100,000
Alan L. Olsen, Fremont, CA, Managing Partner, Greenstein, Rogoff, Olsen & Co., $25,000
Ronald Packard, Los Altos, CA, Packard, Packard & Johnson, Attorney, $5,000
Robert W. Peterson, San Jose, CA, Bank of America, Executive, $5,000
Charles Pope, Santa Cruz, CA, Seagate Technology, Financial Executive, $5,000
Gloria P. Pope, Santa Cruz, CA, $5,000
Douglas B. Quist, Sunnyvale, CA, Nvidia, Director of I.T. $5,000
Anita S. Roundy, Saratoga, CA $25,000
Judy Salmon, Palo Alto, CA, Palo Alto Unified School District, Teacher, $5,000
Nancy L. Saunders, Los Altos, CA, Netapp, HR Operations $30,000
Cheryl D. Smith, Saratoga, CA $25,000
Bob Sundstrom, San Jose, CA, Intuitive Surgical, Director $30,000
Michele C. Sundstrom, San Jose, CA, $5,000
Kenneth I. Talbot, Sunnyvale, CA, Northrop Grumman, $5,000
Jeffrey Wise, Atherton, Pro Solutions Inc, Menlo Park, $9,900
Jack R. Wheatley, Palo Alto, CA $25,000
J. Robert Wheatley, Palo Alto, CA, Robert Wheatley Properties, Property Manager $19,000
Robert Wheatley, Los Altos Hills, CA, Robert Wheatley Properties, Manager
$6,000
Lisa Wheatley, Los Altos Hills, CA $6,000
David J. Wilson, Morgan Hill, CA, CTS Advantage, Owner, $5,000
Jaquetia Zinn, San Jose, CA $25,000

Links to databases
http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/
http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-metro-prop-8,0,2463893.htmlstory
http://bridge.caspio.net/dp.asp?AppKey=1f201000c1e9a8f9h3d8c3d5f1j5
http://cal-access.ss.ca.gov/Campaign/Measures/Detail.aspx?id=1302602&session=2007
http://www.californiansagainsthate.com/dishonorRoll.html

One last time, don’t forget to check the database (http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/) to see if your accountant, insurance agent, realtor, dentist, or lawyer is one of the homophobic supporters of “Yes on 8”. The religious and social conservatives have been calling gay rights and same-sex marriage a cultural war for years. We can no longer remain quiet or placid.
"I swore to never be silent whenever and wherever human beings endure suffering and humiliation. We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim; silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented." --Elie Wiesel

When HR (Human Resources) attacks gays. Yes to H8

In thirty states it is legal to fire someone for being gay or assumed to be gay but not here in California. This state has enacted statutes barring sexual-orientation discrimination in the workplace. In many companies it is the function of the HR department to administer, train, and educate the employees about the laws and policies. They cover workplace harassment and discrimination, diversity training, and compliance with state and federal laws. It is the responsibility of human resource managers to conduct these activities in an effective, legal, fair, and consistent manner.

What do you do if the person in HR is a bigot, supports discrimination, fears homosexuals, or believes in church over state in the workplace?
I think it is important to ask management if the HR person’s actions are damaging the reputation and goodwill of the company.

Let’s look at some HR people in California that contributed to the “Yes on 8” campaign that striped rights away from gays and lesbians.

One of the most outrageous is the HR person at NetApp. Nancy Saunders lists her occupation as “HR Operations”. She made two donations. One was for $5,000 and another for $25,000. She gave away $30,000 to say YES to discriminate and take rights away from same-sex couples. She must really dislike gays.

Employer, Donor Name, City, Occupation, Amount
Blue Coat Systems, Alyssa Lunny, Sunnyvale, HR, $250
Cannon Fabrication, Wayne Munyer, Riverside, HR, $300
Chevron, Justin Hutzley, San Ramon, HR Business Partner, $300
City of Livermore, Kaylin Larson, Livermore, HR Technician, $2,500
City of San Clemente, Sam Penrod, Oceanside, HR, $1,000
Coca-Cola, Tara Dominguez, Kerman, HR, $250
Eli Lilly & Co., Lara Johnson, Ladera Ranch, HR, $250
Gen-Probe Inc, Gary Peck, Encinitas, HR Dir, $1,000
Graphtec America, Eileen Rose, Cypress, HR Mgr, $500
Home Depot, Richard Reep, Shingle Springs, HR Mgr, $5, 000
Imax, Rachel Lathy, Beverly Hills, HR Dir, $550
Infogain, Roxane Mortensen, Saratoga, HR Mgr, $500
Irvine Scientific, Allison Snow, Huntington Beach, HR Mgr, $500
Kaiser Permanente, Patty Freitas, Castro Valley, HR Analyst, $300
Kakimoto & Nagashima LLP, Sondra Christensen, Long Beach, HR Mgr, $250
Kyocera Wireless Corp, Sean Ristine, Escondido, HR Dir, $500
Life Generations Healthcare, Leann Hansen, San Diego, HR, $500
LSI Corp., Jeanne Wright, Los Altos, HR Rep, $3, 500
Mindspeed Tech, Jared Baker, Huntington Beach, HR Dir, $300
Moreno Valley Unified, Denise Gibson, Moreno Valley, HR, $500
Newport Corporation, Brandon Borland, Huntington Beach, HR Rep, $1,000
Northgate Gonzalez Market, Alan Bagley, Tustin, HR Executive, $2,500
Orange County, Lafayette Bartlett, Irvine, HR Mgr, $700
Rogers Poultry Co, Terry Carter, Whittier, HR Mgr, $800
Sharp Healthcare, Steven Stagnaro, San Diego, HR, $280
Shell Oil, Rulon Mc Kay, Danville, HR Manager, $500
Sheraton Hotel, Roxanna Brassfield, Buena Park, HR Mgr, $1,000
St. Jude Medical, Beverly Van Scoyk, Thousand Oaks, HR Mgmt, $1,000
UPS, Steve Nielson, Laguna Niguel, HR Mgr, $2,500
USA Presort, Melissa Rawlins, Stockton, Employee Relations, $295
Whole Foods Market, Joshua Webster, Fresno, HR, $1,000

Don't forget to check the database (http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/) to see if your accountant, insurance agent, realtor, dentist, or lawyer is on the list of supporters of “Yes on H8”.

UPDATE: Interesting discussion about censoring HR in Human Resource Executive Online. "How can HR executives protect their companies from fallout when an employee takes an unpopular and public stand on an issue? And what happens when it is the HR executive's own viewpoints that draw fire?"

Century and CineArts Theatre CEO supports second-class status for same-sex couples

Cinemark CEO, Alan Stock gave $9,999 to the "Yes on H8" (Protectmarriage.com) campaign. Cinemark has 2700 movie screens in North and South America. In northern California they mainly operate under Century, CinéArts and Cinedome name.

Movie theatres in the California Bay Area where the profits helped to support YES to bigotry, YES to discrimination, and YES to second-class status for same-sex couples:

Corte Madera - Century Cinema
Daly City - Century 20 Daly City
Fremont - Cinedome 8 Fremont
Hayward - Century Theatres at Hayward
Larkspur - Century Larkspur Landing
Milpitas - Century 20 Great Mall
Mill Valley - CinéArts @ Sequoia
Mountain View - Century Cinemas 16
Newark - Cinedome 7 Newark
Novato - Century Rowland Plaza
Palo Alto - CinéArts @ Palo Alto Square
Pleasant Hill - Century 16 Downtown
Pleasant Hill - CinéArts @ Pleasant Hill
Redwood City - Century 20 Downtown
Richmond - Century 16 Hilltop
San Bruno - Century at Tanforan
San Francisco - Century Centre 9
San Francisco - CinéArts @ Empire
San Jose - CinéArts @ Santana Row
San Jose - Century Capitol 16
San Jose - Century 20 Oakridge
San Jose - Century 24, Century 25
San Jose - Century Berryessa 10
San Leandro - Century 16 Bayfair
San Mateo - Century 12 Downtown
San Rafael - Century Northgate 15
San Rafael - Century Regency 6
Sausalito - CinéArts @ Marin
Union City - Century 25 Union City
Vallejo - Century 14 Vallejo
Walnut Creek - Century 14 Downtown

Headquarters: 3900 Dallas Pkwy, Suite 500, Plano, TX 75093

Please check the database (http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/) to see if your accountant, insurance agent, realtor, dentist, or lawyer is on the list of supporters of “Yes on H8”. You might be surprised. Some of our friends were.

Family owners of A-1 Self Storage support discrimination

A-1 Self Storage Company is owned by Terry Caster. It is a family (third generation) run company. They have over 40 locations in California.

The Californians Against Hate blog reports:
“Mr. Caster and his family have contributed $693,000 to the Protect Marriage campaign. That makes the Casters the 2nd largest individual donors to Yes on Prop 8.

"This guy must really not like same-sex marriage," said Fred Karger, Campaign Manager of Californians Against Hate in his published blog in The Huffington Post. "Mr. Caster and many of his eight sons and daughters and their spouses have given a combined total of $693,000 to the Protect Marriage campaign between January and November 4, 2008."

If you stockpile your stuff in a rental storage facility and you believe in equality for all, be careful in choosing a company.

Bay Area locations of A-1 Self Storage where the profits go to YES to bigotry, YES to discrimination, and YES to second-class status for same-sex couples:
- 131 Baroni Ave., San Jose
- 3260 S. Bascom Ave, San Jose
- 2900 Monterey Rd , San Jose
- 1415 Old Oakland Rd., San Jose
- 1337 Old County Rd., Belmont
- 5296 Concord Blvd, Concord
- 301 High Street , Oakland-Alameda

Please check the database to see if your accountant, insurance agent, realtor, dentist, or lawyer is on the list of supporters of “Yes on H8”. You might be surprised. Some of our friends were.

Boycott Golfland - Big funders of Prop. 8

Attention miniature golf fans and arcade gamers. The family owners/management of Golfland Entertainment Centers were BIG donors to the “Yes on H8”. They contributed over $35,000 to take rights away from gays, lesbians and their families. The database of Prop. 8 contributions (http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/) list the following:
- Robert Kenney, Sunnyvale, CA, Golfland Entertainment, Vice President, $5,000
- Ms Louise Kenney, Sunnyvale, CA, retired, $5,060
- Daniel Kenney, Campbell, CA, Manager Golfland Entertainment, $300
- Jason Kenney, Sunnyvale, CA, Manager Golfland Entertainment, $99

By doing internet searching I discovered that Fred Kenney of Granite Bay, Calif., is listed as the company's president and chief executive. Interestingly, Cynthia Kenney, a homemaker, lives at the same address as Fred Kenney in Granite Bay. She gave a total of $25,100 to pass Prop. 8.

There are 9 Golfland Entertainment Centers throughout California and Arizona.
-- Golfland USA at Sunnyvale, CA
-- Golfland Emerald Hills at San Jose, CA
-- Golfland at Milpitas, CA
-- Golfland SunSplash at Roseville, CA
-- Golfland Golden Tee at Castro Valley, CA
-- Golfland Camelot at Anaheim, CA
-- Golfland Sunsplash at Mesa, AZ
-- Golfland Waterworld Safari at Phoenix, AZ
-- Golfland Big Surf at Tempe, AZ
Corporate headquarters: 1486 Enderby Way, Sunnyvale, CA 94087

Golfland will take anyone’s money and claim they are fun for the whole family. But they will use the profit to say YES to bigotry, YES to discrimination, and YES to second-class status for same-sex couples. Unknowingly, we took our children there for a day of fun this summer. I now feel like I’ve been stabbed in the back by Golfland. We will not return.

Please check the database to see if your accountant, insurance agent, realtor, dentist, or lawyer is on the list of supporters of “Yes on H8”. You might be surprised. Some of our friends were.

Notes about the Prop 8 database (http://www.sfgate.com/webdb/prop8/).
Anonymous gifts are not allowed. A campaign reform law requires that the giver provide their name, address, occupation and employer.
Political contributions are a matter of public record. They are reported to the government and are available to the general public. They are accessible from several sites on the intenet.
I have noticed the following ways some people try to obscure their contribution:
- Misspelling of their name, address or employer. Insuring the correct or consistent spelling of any of the required fields does not seem to be a limitation.
- Making the contribution under the name of a lesser know spouse or family member is common.
Political and campaign contributions are not tax deductible and cannot be counted as a charitable donation.
Contributions that don’t follow the reporting guidelines are returned.

California Musical Theatre: Artistic Director Scott Eckern

This is stupefying. The Artistic Director of Californai Musical Theatre, Sacramento’s oldest professional performing arts organization and California’s largest nonprofit musical theatre company is a donor to the “Yes on Hate” campaign! He gave $1000 to the Yes on 8! This is from a man whose job it is to select the musicals and hire the actors and designers. He hires and works with thousands of gay men. (Believe it or not, there is a very high proportion of gays working in musical theatre.)

Hard to believe that Scott Eckern supports YES to bigotry, YES to discrimination, and YES to second-class status for same-sex couples. This is an attack on gays everywhere.

I have read his bio. He is obviously Mormon. But has he not learned anything from the people he works with or from the shows he has produced? Mr. Eckern seems like a smart, intelligent and successful man. I am amazed that he is a naive and simple believer of the Mormon doctrine, Religions and faiths can change. My religion, Reform Judaism, has grown and changed with the times. Even I know that the Mormon faith has made social progress. It use to promote polygamy and taught blacks were inferior.

We first started to make trips to Sacramento to see a musical at California Musical Theatre. (Read here and here) We discovered that the Sacramento area is blessed with a wealth of theatre companies. As long at Mr. Eckern is at California Musical Theatre we will no longer be patrons of that organization. We will make sure our friends and theatre colleagues in the Bay Area know about this as well. We love these other theatres in Sacramento: B Street Theatre, Capital Stage, and Sacramento Theatre Company.

UPDATE: Mr. Eckern announced his resignation as artistic director of the California Musical Theatre on Nov. 12, 2008. He says he will make a comparable donation to the Human Rights Campaign. He also revealed "I chose to act upon my belief that the traditional definition of marriage should be preserved. I support each individual to have rights and access and I understood that in California domestic partnerships come with the same rights that come with marriage. My sister is a lesbian and in a committed domestic partnership relationship. I am loving and supportive of her and her family, and she is loving and supportive of me and my family."

Lies, Money and Tyranny

Next to the presidential race, the California Proposition 8 campaign was the most expensive and divisive campaign this year. It appears that both sides raised and spent a total of $75 million dollars. We made a five-figure donation to the “No On Prop 8” campaign to help counter the attacks. It was the largest gift we have ever given to a political cause. We spent thousands of dollars on a second “official” wedding. We combined the ceremony with program of speakers that talked about the importance of marriage equality. The wedding event motivated our 400 guest to raise an additional $20,000 for the cause.

I am angry and depressed about the vote and the colossal waste of money. Instead of prohibiting committed couples marrying, the religious right (Mormons, Catholics, Southern Baptists, etc.) could have spent their money on helping the "widows and orphans", the hungry, the homeless, the sick, the uneducated, the poor.

I am also pissed that these religious organizations used lies, misinformation and distortions to fool millions of voters to vote for bigotry, discrimination and to create a second-class status out of a minority of its citizens. Shame on African-Americans and other California minorities that forgot and ignored their own historical marriage battles.

The maddening thing about same-sex marriage ban voter referendums is that majority rule was never intended to be the ideal American way to legislate laws regarding constitutional changes and civil rights. Historically, federal and state constitutions were intended to protect and further freedom and the civil rights of the individual. Under no circumstances was it envisioned that the ballot box or constitutional law would be used to limit the rights of any individual. Otherwise you run into First Amendment issues.

Fearing the tyranny of the majority, particularly with regard to the rights and freedom of the individual, the nation's founders developed a system of checks and balances designed to make the courts the final arbiter of justice and interpreter of the constitutionality of laws; provide the executive with the power to veto bad legislative decisions and even temper the power of the ballot box.

Californians Against Hate has a website listing the “Dishonor Roll” of donors that gave $5000 and more to “Yes on 8”. This is public information that comes from the California Secretary of State’s Office. There are places on the web you can lookup all donors to Prop 8 (LA Times)—pro and con. Learn who your friends and enemies are.

Election Day: The good and the bad

THE GOOD: We have an inclusive president. In Obama’s acceptance speech, he stated:

“If there is anyone out there who still doubts that America is a place where all things are possible; who still wonders if the dream of our founders is alive in our time; who still questions the power of our democracy, tonight is your answer.
…
“It's the answer spoken by young and old, rich and poor, Democrat and Republican, black, white, Latino, Asian, Native American, gay, straight, disabled and not disabled - Americans who sent a message to the world that we have never been a collection of Red States and Blue States: we are, and always will be, the United States of America.”

MORE GOOD: Dozens of openly GLBT candidates were elected to public offices across the country on Tuesday, according to the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund. The group, which endorsed a record-breaking 111 candidates in 2008, said more than 70 percent of its endorsed candidates had won their races by early Wednesday. Details at GayPolitics.com.

THE BAD: Anti-gay marriage propositions all passed in Florida, Arizona, and California. Arkansas made same-sex adoption illegal. What a major disappointment. Here in California, I feel like the voters have more concern and compassion for the rights for chickens and farm animals then for their fellow gay and lesbian citizens. Proposition 2 had a big win for protection and humane treatment of farm animals.

The Mormon Church must be doing “high fives” over their marriage win. For a mere $20 million dollars, they got to slap down the marriages of gays and lesbians in California. Glad to know they are doing “god’s work”.

link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q28UwAyzUkE

My friends, Jon Stewart has a marvelous take on it all:

link: http://www.thedailyshow.com/video/index.jhtml?videoId=189782&title=i-now-denounce-you-chucklarry

The Truth and Fears for churches and ministers about Prop 8

The Fear: Churches will be sued if they refuse to allow same-sex marriage ceremonies in their religious buildings that are open to the public. Ask whether your pastor, priest, minister, bishop, or rabbi is ready to perform such marriages in your chapels and sanctuaries.

The Truth: There are two issues here:
1) allowing same-sex marriages to be performed in church-owned facilities, and
2) religious officiants performing same-sex marriages.“Yes on 8” supports want you to think your “pastor, priest, minister, bishop, or rabbi” is going to be forced to perform marriages that are in direct conflict with your church’s beliefs.

Issue 1: Same-sex marriages in church-owned facilities.
It’s highly unlikely that a same-sex couple would want to get married in a facility owned by an organization hostile to equal rights — just as, say, a Muslim couple would want to be married in a place where the pastor preaches that Islam is evil. Which is probably why we’ve never heard of a Muslim couple suing a Christian church for denying access to a church hall (or a Christian couple suing a synagogue, or a Jewish couple suing a mosque, etc., etc., etc.).
If the facilities are “open to the public,” then yes, the owner could be sued for refusing to allow access to same-sex couples — or anyone else for that matter.
The solution: Don’t rent your church hall to the public.
The real bottom line: Whether your church gets sued for its discriminatory practices or not has absolutely nothing to do with Proposition 8.

Issue 2: Religious officiants performing same-sex marriages.
To require any church to perform any civil marriage is unconstitutional — that is, it violates the United States Constitution.
No church can be forced to perform any marriage. The Catholic Church will not, and cannot be forced to, perform a marriage for a non-Catholic couple, nor for a divorced Catholic (a Catholic whose previous marriage was annulled by the church, yes, but not a civilly divorced Catholic). The same goes for every other church — and applies to secular officiants as well (i.e., an atheist officiant cannot be forced to perform a religious ceremony).
The only way to “force” any clergy member to do anything against the tenets of his or her church is by way of a constitutional amendment to strike the Free Exercise Clause from the First Amendment, or to repeal the First Amendment altogether. That isn’t going to happen.

Now, if you want a real slippery slope that will threaten religious freedom in the United States, then a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage (state or federal) is the way to go.

First, forcing the government to declare which marriages are legal and which are not based on the religious ideology of any one group restricts the religious freedom of every other religious group. That means if, say, Catholics could force the government to abide by Catholic doctrine, all non-Catholic marriages would be null and void. (Sure it’s a stretch, but according to the radical righties, nothing’s “impossible”… right?)

Second, if the righties want to argue that marriage is a “sacred” religious institution, they run the risk of invalidating their own authority to perform legally-recognized marriages.

The Fear: Ministers who preach against same-sex marriages will be sued for hate speech and could be fined by the government.

The Truth: This is a lie, combined with irrelevant fearmongering. I could sue Pat Robertson for hate speech right this minute (anybody can sue anybody for anything, especially in California), but I wouldn’t win. His hate speech (and everyone else’s) is completely protected under the First Amendment of the U.S. Constitution. There are yelling-fire-in-a-theatre exceptions (e.g., inciting violence), but Fred Phelps will still be free to scream “God hates fags” all he likes.
In fact, ministers will still be free to tell their congregations how to vote on ballot initiatives like Proposition 8, without worrying about losing their federal tax-exempt status. (The only kind of politicking preachers can’t do in an official capacity is promote specific candidates. That’s why bully-pulpiteer James Dobson spun off “Focus on the Family Action” from Focus on the Family; Dobson is quite open about its purpose: “Focus on the Family Action is a new cultural action organization that is completely separate from Focus on the Family, legally. It has been created by separating out of Focus on the Family those activities which constitute lobbying under the IRS code…”)
Again, Proposition 8 has no impact on existing hate-crimes laws (there are no specific “hate speech laws”).

The above summary is from the Lavender Newswire story, “Six Big Lies the Freedom-Haters Are Spreading About Proposition 8.” I have edited it down to the two most common issues that I find that Google searches bring to my blog.

There are many individual Christian Churches that support “No On Prop 8”. They include churches from the following denominations:
Episcopal Church
Lutheran Church
Metropolitan Community Church
Presbyterian Church
Unitarian Universalists
United Church of Christ
United Congregational Church
United Methodist Church